Chippin' Away

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what will my kids remember? June 14, 2013

Filed under: Uncategorized — chippinaway @ 7:30 pm

Do you remember what your mom served you for breakfast when you were little?  Do you remember if she hand-made all the decorations for your 1st birthday or just went to McDonalds because it was easier?  Do you remember how many times a week she cooked a home-made meal and how many times she heated up something in the microwave?

Some of us probably remember some of the details, but I think most us probably remember the time we spent with our mom.  That’s what I remember most.  I remember that my mom worked the night shift and would still somehow stay awake long enough to drive me to school sometimes.  I remember that my mom made it to every band concert and football game (which was really a marching band show….seriously).  I remember that she let me have sleep overs and help her bake cookies at Christmas time.  I remember trips to Sonic, which for some reason were the magical trips that made my teenage self actually start talking to my mom about what was going on in my life.  I remember her dancing and laughing (and snorting) with my friends, who thought she was the coolest, even though I was mortified.  I remember worshipping Jesus next to mom on Sunday mornings.  I remember hearing her sing praises all day long as she worked so tirelessly to provide for our family and keep the home a safe, loving environment.

I don’t remember how often the house was clean.  I don’t remember my first birthday party.  I don’t remember the lunches she packed for me for school (because we bought our lunch at that was ok!).  I don’t remember my mom trying to be someone she wasn’t.

See, I have this problem with comparing myself to other moms.  I find myself believing that if I am not the crafty mom, the homeschooling mom, the mom that wears make-up and high heels every day, then I’m not a good mom.  I read a blog recently talking about this exact same thing.  We moms somehow believe that if we aren’t like the other moms then we aren’t doing it right.

I am not doing my kids any favors by trying to be someone that I’m not.  What I want to do is have my kids remember me as a mom who followed Jesus, taught them to follow Jesus, and had as much fun as I could along the way.  There will be days of success and days of failure.  None of us are the perfect mom.  But, I hope that when my kids are 30 (ack! I’m almost 30!) they will remember me being a mom who loved her kids and did the chores when there was time.


3 Responses to “what will my kids remember?”

  1. sdrinka Says:

    True. Thankful for the freedom in this.

  2. Tanya Says:

    Love this! I haven’t been commenting, but i always love your blog posts. I am so inspired by the family you’ve allowed God to build, and I love watching you all grow together through facebook and your blog.

    I agree it is hard to stay focused on God’s path for me and my family, and not get sidetracked by all the “details” that seem oh-so-important but really have no lasting value in terms of eternity.

    Birthday parties, clean houses, sleep training, well-attired mommies….these all seem like such major issues in baby-land these days and if you don’t buy into it, or you feel led by God to do things a little differently, it is hard not to feel you are missing something important (slacking maybe?). So important to stay focused on the overall goals of our parenting efforts…

  3. Deforia Lane Says:

    I too love your blogs. I stop no matter what I am doing and read it, knowing that it will be real, from the heart and yet another ‘truth’ revealed from our Savior. This one stimulated me to write a letter to my Mother, ‘remembering’ the fun, folly and her faith that so deeply impacted me. I recall so many memorable events that today when I look in the mirror I say, “that’s my Mom!”. I still want to grow up to be like her. She’s 89 and talking to her still I understand even more how amazing she is. The very fact that you are thinking about how your children will think of you, says that you are aware of what matters most. I dare say they will sit with their children in 15 or 30 years from now and say, “what I remember most about my Mom was how clean our kitchen floor was”. Enjoy them ( and dust often), play spontaneously with them (and try to keep up with the laundry), kiss and hug them relentlessly (and make sure they eat most of their spinach), and surround them with the Word of God, and they will rise up and call you blessed.


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